Feeling angry is a normal part of your life. Usually your anger is a result of feeling frustrated, insulted, deceived or even you felt under attack. For many, anger is a natural reaction that passes quickly. In some cases however, it can become a difficult emotion to control.
Failing to manage your anger properly can lead to you suffering mental and physical health problems. You might have found your anger issues have been affecting your relationships, your work or even your feelings of worth and confidence.
When does your anger become a problem?
Anger can be a useful emotion that triggers a physical reaction in the body. In Psychology we call this the ‘fight or flight’ and it normally occurs when we are stressed or threatened.
Adrenaline is pumped around the body, making you feel tense and ready to ‘fight’ the perceived threat, or flee the scene. This was an evolutionary response going way back to our cavemen ancestors. When they met the Sabre toothed tiger they would suddenly have enough energy to fight, or run very fast. In today’s modern society many of the threats are perceived rather than physical the problem here is that fighting or running away isn’t usually an appropriate option. This can make it difficult for you to express or release anger, and this is where you can people develop a problem.
When you aren’t able to express your anger, you often bottle it up. This can cause you to have angry outbursts at usually inappropriate times. It may also make you feel more angry in general, leading you to react more aggressively in other situations.
Everyone’s experience will differ, but the following types of anger issues are recognised as potentially damaging:
- Chronic anger – Ongoing, prolonged anger can affect the immune system and result in other mental health issues.
- Passive anger – When people express their anger in a passive way it often affects relationships.
- Overwhelmed anger – Caused when an individual feels there is simply too much to cope with.
- Self-inflicted anger – When anger is directed toward yourself due to guilt, it can be mentally damaging.
- Judgmental anger – Directed towards others, the feeling of anger usually comes with resentment.
- Volatile anger – Leading to violent outbursts, this form of anger can be troubling for loved ones.
If you don’t learn how to deal with your anger, it can lead you to suffer physical and mental health problems.
Physical effects of anger
Suffering from anger management issues in the long-term can have detrimental affects on your health. Research shows it can link to the following conditions:
- high blood pressure
- colds and flu
- heart disease
- stomach problems.
If you are worried about any physical symptoms, you should consider seeking advice from your GP. They will be able to assess your symptoms and see if they could be linked to your anger management issues.
Emotional effects of anger
Not being able to express your anger can eventually lead to further mental health conditions, such as:
- lack of confidence
Why am I so angry?
Everyone is different and will have their own triggers that make them angry. It could be that you feel you have been treated wrongly, or you may simply be frustrated. For many people a sense of not being in control can lead you to feel frustration and anger.
To understand your anger, it can be helpful to look at your own past experiences. It may be your background and upbringing that influence how you cope with your anger. It may be that your parents were abnormally angry and violent when you were young, so you understandably believed this behaviour was normal.
Alternatively you may have grown up seeing anger as a very scary emotion. This can make you feel frightened and unable to express your anger. Whatever the circumstance may be, understanding the root of your anger is an important step in anger management.
Do I need help with anger management?
Recognising that you have a problem with anger management can embarrassing and hard. You may think being angry is just who you are, or you may not recognise your symptoms as anger related.
If the following has happened, you may benefit from professional anger management help:
- Your behaviour has led you to break the law.
- You are violent towards your partner, family or other people.
- You deliberately break things or damage property.
- You regularly argue with those close to you.
- You feel angry constantly but feel unable to express yourself.
- You feel out of control when you are angry and are worried about what you might do.
Hypnotherapy for anger
Hypnotherapy can easily help you with anger management. My initial aim will be to understand the root cause of your anger.
As I previously mentioned, anger management problems often come from your past experiences. These experiences have shaped your behaviour. So while you may think another person or situation is causing you to be angry, it may well come from yourself. Once this is understood, I can begin work changing this.
I will work on a subconscious level to help change your negative thought processes. This will involve relaxation techniques and suggestions that I will teach you to help control your anger.This will change your reaction to anger triggers. Instead of feeling overwhelmed and angry, you will feel calmer and more relaxed. Feeling calmer in stressful situations helps you to think more clearly so you can react in a more appropriate way. Anger management hypnotherapy will also help with some of the symptoms of anger. For example, if you are suffering from anxiety, stress or depression hypnotherapy eliminate these feelings.
Visit me in my Gateshead consulting rooms or home visits across the North East of England.
1 to 1 sessions are also available by Skype
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Home visits – Hypnotherapy
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Gateshead Consulting Room, Rydal Street, Gateshead. (Behind Coatsworth road) Available from march 2018
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